I used to ask myself the question: How How Do I Get My Ex-Girlfriend Back? right after any break up until i have read a very interesting story that taught me a valuable lesson. In this article i will tell you the story as well as the lessons we can learn from it.
A group of psychologists have conducted an experiment on a two year old baby. The baby had many games and toys to play with. They picked a toy that the baby actually ignored for a long time and took it from the baby. In fact the baby preferred many other toys over that one that the psychologists have chosen, and the baby was not playing with that toy when they took the it from the baby playing room.
The reaction of the baby when they took the toy was really shocking. Not only the little baby girl desired the toy more than any other toy, but she was crying in a hysterical way.
After a while the psychologists gave the toy back to the little girl again. They expected that the baby girl would appreciate the toy more than any other toy because of her crying attitude when the toy was taken from her..
Again the little baby girl reaction was shocking. After less than ten minutes, the baby has thrown the toy and completely forgot about it as if she was not crying ten minutes ago, and started to play with other toys again like before.
One of the psychologists picked the toy and offered it again to the baby. The funny part is that the baby refused to take the toy to play with it again. The psychologist did not stop and tried to convince the baby to play again with the toy, which made the baby too annoyed to the extent that she has started to cry again!
Now, what does this have to do with getting your ex-girlfriend back? What is the lesson that you can learn from the above story?
Well.. Your story is very similar to the little girl story. You are the toy, and your girlfriend is the little baby that is now ignoring the toy and it seems that she has no desire for it anymore.
So if your girlfriend has dumped you (the baby ignores the toy), then all what you have to do is to take the toy from her i.e. let your girlfriend miss you.
Being too available for your girlfriend/wife may be the main cause she has ignored you or dumped you, and in order to get her want you again, you have to let her experience the pain of loss (missing the toy).
The above story gives you many important lessons that not only will help you get your girl back, but also keep her attracted and attached to you. The following few lines will explain the most important lesson you have to learn from that story.
How do i get my ex-girlfriend back?
According to the story,
- Never become available too much for her. By being too available for her she may ignore you. It is our human nature to appreciate what we cannot have.
- Act as a challenge. Have other “stand by” women in your life. By being a challenge, you are subconsciously telling her that you have another life, another women competing with her to win your love, and actually many other hobbies and interests rather than her. When she realizes this kind of competition (the toy may be lost at any time), she will always do her best to win your love.
- If you have already been dumped (the baby already is ignoring the toy), then
- Never try to beg or to convince her to get back with you. You will actually be doing the same when the psychologist tried to convince the baby to play with the toy again.You will push her more and make her more annoyed of you.
- Start no contact right now. But let her know. The point here is to dump her like she dumped you and to let her experience the pain of losing you and missing you in her life. But she must be aware that you are in no contact. In the above story, if the little baby did not notice the psychologists when they took the toy, the baby would have not cried. Why? Because she was already ignoring the toy, and when the toy is missing, the baby may not even notice it.
So, it is not just about starting no contact, but it is also about letting your girl know about it. This way, you are telling her that she has lost you and you are no longer interested in her, which will harm her ego and she will want you badly more than you can expect.
- After getting her back, never become too available as I explained before. By doing this, she will start ignoring you (the toy) again. So learn from the past mistakes and never do the same mistake twice.
You may also want to check my ultimate guide on how to get your ex girlfriend back .
Matt Huston created the ex2 system and helped many guys get their ex girlfriends back. Not only Matt will tell you about killer tactics and techniques to get her back, but also he gives a complete guide named “Train your girlfriend” as a bonus to help you keep her after you get her back. You can read a complete review of the ex2 system here or you can listen to Matt’s free audio presentation here. ( Hint: the video may take some time to start so wait about 5 to 10 seconds for the video to load because there are too many people trying to access the server and watch that video).
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