Self confidence and self esteem are very similar to each other yet they are not the same, so in this article we are going to know each one of them and the difference between them.
Self Confidence Definition
Self-confidence is a feeling or belief in your qualifications, skills and abilities that you can handle yourself in a certain situation. When you know, without question, that you can do something, then you will feel very confident.
In fact, you will feel very confident to the extent that you don’t even think about it.
The above definition is the general one as every person has his own definition of self- confidence.. For example, if you have a problem with approaching women, then your own definition of self-confidence would be the ability of approaching women without being anxious. And if you have a problem with public speaking, then your own definition of self confidence would be the ability to make presentations and public speaking in front of a lot of people without being nervous…And so on.
This brings us to a very important truth about self confidence, which is there is no one who is absolutely confident, in other words, there is nothing like being confident in all aspects of life.. So when we say the word “confident”, we must ask confident in what?
However, when we say that someone is confident, we actually mean that this person is socially confident which is related to his ability to approach strangers, communicate well with others and so on.
Self Esteem Definition
Self-esteem is how you value yourself in general, regardless of your abilities, skills, and qualifications. It is your opinion about yourself. You have a high self esteem when you have a good opinion about yourself, also you have a low self esteem when you have a bad opinion about yourself…
Self-esteem determines how we perceive our value to the world and how valuable you think people see you.
Every one has a Self esteem , it does not necessarily mean seeing yourself as the greatest person in the world. It is also different from being arrogant. Healthy self esteem means accepting yourself as it is and loving yourself, for the most part, as you are.
The way you love yourself determines your Self-esteem level, this level has been formed by a lot of factors since your were born, like your past experiences, achievements, your weight, and how you think people love you. However, you do not think of them when you evaluate yourself.
Self-esteem is not constant all over the time, it goes up and down.. For example, it is raised by compliments and lowered by criticism. Self-esteem, self image, self worth, self regard…etc are all of the same meaning…they all describe the way you feel about yourself.
What is Low Self Esteem?
You have low self esteem when you think that your overall rating is too bad. You have low self esteem when you feel unworthy, incapable, and incompetent without any obvious reasons and without starting to change it.
You have low self esteem when are not satisfied with your body shape, your looks and do not do any thing to change it!!!
Signs of low self-esteem
- Hyper sensitivity
- Fear of people
- Social withdrawn
- Mistrusting others
- Lack of ambition
- Perfectionist attitude
- Blaming external factors
- Negative view of life
- Fear of taking risks
- Following other people blindly
…The list is endless.
The problem of low self esteem is that you provide your unconscious mind with negative things about you without any real evidence about them, which causes you to believe the criticism of other people, and following them blindly.
High Self Esteem
High self esteem is the complete opposite to all the above..
You have high self esteem when you think that your overall rating is good enough, and you have a better chance to succeed than a lot of people. You have high self esteem when you feel worthy, capable, and competent.
You have high self esteem when you forgive yourself for your mistakes, forget about your failures and just learn from them, and celebrate your strengths and achievements. You don’t have to be perfect to have high self-esteem. You just have to accept yourself as good enough.
Healthy self esteem doesn’t depend on your current status. Instead It depends on what you expect of yourself to be in the future.. The more you believe in yourself, the more you will feel good about yourself.
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